Grief and how it leads to Yoga

Last week was my Dads heavenly birthday and it got me thinking about grief and it’s stages, and it lead me to question is the world is an a sense of grieving right now?……

Grief is the response to loss, and although it is mainly considered to be the loss of someone or something that has died, it can also be something where a bond or affection was formed, like a relationship with a person whether it be negative or positive, bonds can also be made to jobs, habits, places the list is endless, here are a few….

  1. Divorce or relationship breakup
  2. Loss of health
  3. Losing a job
  4. Loss of financial stability
  5. A miscarriage
  6. Retirement
  7. Death of a pet
  8. Loss of a cherished dream
  9. A loved one’s serious illness
  10. Loss of a friendship
  11. Loss of safety after a trauma
  12. Selling the family home

I think it fair to say during these current times we are all experiencing at least one of the above circumstances

In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.”
The five stages of grief are:

Shock/Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will __.”
Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what happened.”

I remember the feeling of absolute shock when lock down was first announced and well to be honest over the past week I have had sadness shock and disbelief looking round what is happening in the world.

Out of all the processes of grief for me it is in my opinion we can not spend too much in anger, because it is exhausting and counter productive we all know that feeling of losing it in an argument you let your emotions take over and so you can’t get your point across, but if you take a minute look what’s going on, in your inside space the answers come and the anger is transmuted! And well it should never really be about winning an argument it’s about understanding another persons point of view and then a resolution to the problem can be found!

I have defiantly experienced all the 5 emotional stages during this past few months and just like grief you don’t just pass through them you dance between them and sometimes when you feel most hopeful anger can just slap you in the face because you are not where you want to be…….but then you have to go back to hope and have belief that you will get there! Self awareness is key and the more we take time to do yoga and mediate the more we find that self awareness

If I’m honest I don’t think many of us found this world it at its best, but I believe we are a part of the process to make it better, so yes we have to go through a process of grieving to let go of the old habits and old ideas but we have to celebrate the new life that is coming, and we have to come together as one, we don’t need to be a part of history but we need to be part of the future and let hope lead the way😀
At that is exactly what LYs and YogaBears is to me the solution to the problem the gateway to the new brighter world

The feeling of Grief effects our body minds and souls and it triggers the stress response “fight or flight”. Each time we feel threatened or have a stress reaction, we physically respond by tensing in this area or by drawing ourselves in or running away to protect ourselves, this is not just effecting us physically it is affecting us holistically.

Yoga and fitness helps to turn of the stress, by helping you to connect to the body and the breath and it is possible to literally burn off anger while moving your body fluidity or in some cases your mat is a safe space to let aggression out it’s no point in pretending the aggression is not there because it will come out in other ways, when you take responsibility for your feelings you are aware you are in complete control!

If any of the above did resonate with you then please come and join Lys today let take control and become empowerment together